Advice please on weird trade situation (long)
Hi all,
I would really appreciate advice in this trading situation I am now muddled in. I got a bunch of trade requests from the same person, accepted the trade and got no answer for 2-3 days, so I assume that's a "no." In the meantime, I traded with someone else for the pin the first trader had offered.
Then the first trader replied to say "yes, let's trade" and I replied nicely, saying I was sorry, but since I hadn't heard back, I made another trade and no longer needed their pin (one of the DSF Pixar shorts pins).
Then Trader says they are going to DSF over the weekend and offers to look for other Pixar Shorts pins on my wants list because they really want to trade for the pin I still have.
I replied that it was very nice, but not to make a special trip on my account. I said I would hold onto my pin until Sunday (when they said they would know) and for them to email me one way or another. I stressed again, PLEASE don't go out of your way for me.
That part was no big deal--I didn't get any other trade requests for the pin they wanted, no problems. It was a very nice offer on the trader's part, above and beyond, I thought. Was happy to hold off and wait.
Then trader emails me back saying they were able to find one of the pins on my wants list but not any others and would I want duplicates. This was supposed to be a two for two trade so instead of pin A and B, I would be getting 2 of pin A.
I accept, figuring instead of trading for 2 keepers, I am just trading for 1 keeper and 1 trader, no problem, and it was very nice of the person to go look for pins for me. I sent my address and said "please let me know if you still want to trade and send your address." This was on Jan. 31st
Now I hear nothing back; figure they have made a different trade after all that. Oh well.
Then I get yet another, different, trade request from same person offering me pin A again for a DIFFERENT pin of mine. ???
I write back and again, nicely say "HI, we had a trade set up, if you want to make a new one, please email me and we'll go from there." This was on Feb. 2nd
No answer. Days go by. (shrug) I write the whole thing off.
Then last weekend, I make a completely different trade and get all the rest of my Pixar shorts pins (woo hoo!)
Then lo and behold, first Trader writes back yesterday, Feb. 8 saying "hi, my computer was down, YES, let's make that trade!"
I replied again politely saying "I'm really sorry, but I never heard back from you; it's been over a week and I have already traded for the pins you were offering since I never heard a confirmation from you."
I did say I still had the pin they wanted and if they got more traders (they only have 5 or 6 and I have already traded for the ones I wanted) I would be happy to try again in the future and thanks anyway.
The kicker: I get this email from them this morning that says "Yes I understand, but I have already mailed my pins to you. Will you please mail them back?"
!!!
WTH??! I am so annoyed! Why would anyone DO that??!! Never write back 3 words to say "Yes, I accept" and then send pins ANYWAY after a week has gone by with no communication??!
OF COURSE I will send them back because it would be stealing to keep them, but I SO am resenting having to pay that postage. I know it is only $2 or so but it is rubbing me the wrong way.
I went and looked again at their pins, but they have nothing else on my wants list and I don't want to trade for pins I don't even want. I feel forced into this.
I so want to write back and ask "why did you send pins to me without confirming the trade?!" Or ask for postage, something! Am I being overly petty? Do I have an obligation to trade with them?
Thanks for any insight! Mostly I want to get over my grumpiness about the whole thing!
Laura (lwrn2)
I would really appreciate advice in this trading situation I am now muddled in. I got a bunch of trade requests from the same person, accepted the trade and got no answer for 2-3 days, so I assume that's a "no." In the meantime, I traded with someone else for the pin the first trader had offered.
Then the first trader replied to say "yes, let's trade" and I replied nicely, saying I was sorry, but since I hadn't heard back, I made another trade and no longer needed their pin (one of the DSF Pixar shorts pins).
Then Trader says they are going to DSF over the weekend and offers to look for other Pixar Shorts pins on my wants list because they really want to trade for the pin I still have.
I replied that it was very nice, but not to make a special trip on my account. I said I would hold onto my pin until Sunday (when they said they would know) and for them to email me one way or another. I stressed again, PLEASE don't go out of your way for me.
That part was no big deal--I didn't get any other trade requests for the pin they wanted, no problems. It was a very nice offer on the trader's part, above and beyond, I thought. Was happy to hold off and wait.
Then trader emails me back saying they were able to find one of the pins on my wants list but not any others and would I want duplicates. This was supposed to be a two for two trade so instead of pin A and B, I would be getting 2 of pin A.
I accept, figuring instead of trading for 2 keepers, I am just trading for 1 keeper and 1 trader, no problem, and it was very nice of the person to go look for pins for me. I sent my address and said "please let me know if you still want to trade and send your address." This was on Jan. 31st
Now I hear nothing back; figure they have made a different trade after all that. Oh well.
Then I get yet another, different, trade request from same person offering me pin A again for a DIFFERENT pin of mine. ???
I write back and again, nicely say "HI, we had a trade set up, if you want to make a new one, please email me and we'll go from there." This was on Feb. 2nd
No answer. Days go by. (shrug) I write the whole thing off.
Then last weekend, I make a completely different trade and get all the rest of my Pixar shorts pins (woo hoo!)
Then lo and behold, first Trader writes back yesterday, Feb. 8 saying "hi, my computer was down, YES, let's make that trade!"
I replied again politely saying "I'm really sorry, but I never heard back from you; it's been over a week and I have already traded for the pins you were offering since I never heard a confirmation from you."
I did say I still had the pin they wanted and if they got more traders (they only have 5 or 6 and I have already traded for the ones I wanted) I would be happy to try again in the future and thanks anyway.
The kicker: I get this email from them this morning that says "Yes I understand, but I have already mailed my pins to you. Will you please mail them back?"
!!!
WTH??! I am so annoyed! Why would anyone DO that??!! Never write back 3 words to say "Yes, I accept" and then send pins ANYWAY after a week has gone by with no communication??!
OF COURSE I will send them back because it would be stealing to keep them, but I SO am resenting having to pay that postage. I know it is only $2 or so but it is rubbing me the wrong way.
I went and looked again at their pins, but they have nothing else on my wants list and I don't want to trade for pins I don't even want. I feel forced into this.
I so want to write back and ask "why did you send pins to me without confirming the trade?!" Or ask for postage, something! Am I being overly petty? Do I have an obligation to trade with them?
Thanks for any insight! Mostly I want to get over my grumpiness about the whole thing!
Laura (lwrn2)