So frustrated! How would you respond to this??
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Myself and another trader have been talking about a possible trade since last week. I told them what I had from their wants list and they proposed a multi trade (4 pins for 4 pins). I told them I needed to chat with my hubby first since I was doing this more for him than myself and I wanted to be sure he was happy with the trade. I was out of town for the weekend and told the person I would message them asap to let them know. They said that was fine and they would await my answer.
Yesterday I messaged them and said I had finally had some time to run it all by dh and he was happy with that trade offer. I get a message back that said that was great, went over the trade one last time and sent me the shipping info. We even had one more email making sure that all pins were still new and on the cards. So, everything is set. They seem excited about the trade and my dh and I are as well. I let them know I will package the pins and have them out right away. That is exactly what I did. I got offline, packaged all 4 pins up and went to bed. I got up this morning and went across town to ship them out. I come home to an email that says they have changed their mind now b/c "their spouse was not as crazy about the trade as they thought". All I can think is that I took the time to run it by mine before agreeing to the trade so that I could be sure before giving an answer. This person could not do the same for me? In those several days that went by while they waited for my answer they could not have checked to be sure on their end as well??
Here is what really bugs me about the whole thing... the person put these 4 pins up on ebay last night instead! Why tell somebody you are backing out b/c your spouse does not like the pins as much when really you just decided that you had rather ebay them??
So, my pins are out in the mail, I am out the money I spent to ship them and I have to wait now for this person to get them and send them back to me.
Has anyone else had this happen? How did you respond? I don't like to be rude to anyone but this just really gets under my skin. They are the ones who proposed this trade. I took my time to make sure I wanted to go forward with it but yet they back out after already agreeing.
Yesterday I messaged them and said I had finally had some time to run it all by dh and he was happy with that trade offer. I get a message back that said that was great, went over the trade one last time and sent me the shipping info. We even had one more email making sure that all pins were still new and on the cards. So, everything is set. They seem excited about the trade and my dh and I are as well. I let them know I will package the pins and have them out right away. That is exactly what I did. I got offline, packaged all 4 pins up and went to bed. I got up this morning and went across town to ship them out. I come home to an email that says they have changed their mind now b/c "their spouse was not as crazy about the trade as they thought". All I can think is that I took the time to run it by mine before agreeing to the trade so that I could be sure before giving an answer. This person could not do the same for me? In those several days that went by while they waited for my answer they could not have checked to be sure on their end as well??
Here is what really bugs me about the whole thing... the person put these 4 pins up on ebay last night instead! Why tell somebody you are backing out b/c your spouse does not like the pins as much when really you just decided that you had rather ebay them??
So, my pins are out in the mail, I am out the money I spent to ship them and I have to wait now for this person to get them and send them back to me.
Has anyone else had this happen? How did you respond? I don't like to be rude to anyone but this just really gets under my skin. They are the ones who proposed this trade. I took my time to make sure I wanted to go forward with it but yet they back out after already agreeing.
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