OK, here it is!
I have traded with Tabbi and she had very few referrals, However, I felt good about the trade because of communication and am always willing to take a chance. Point being, If I agree to trade, I mail immediatly because I have made the commitment.
I also remember when I had ZERO referrals and had to start somewhere, there is always someone who has a good heart and a little trust (Thank you JUDY) and will do a trade.
Now, on the other hand, communication is the key to success. There was a trader who wanted a LE100 pin I had and they had ZERO referrals. I explained to them with all due respect that it is difficult to sent to a person with no referrals, however, here is a deal. I have over 150 referrals so hopefully you know I am an honest trader, and of course you really want the pin I have. Mail to me, and upon receipt of the pin, I will immediatly mail yours. THIS WAS AGREED UPON IN ADVANCE.
Now for PIN HOSTAGES. They are people who if they make a trade, should have trust but the wait until they get your pin even though they say they will mail on the same day to make sure they get theirs and then send yours. I hate it when they lie. I had a person agree with me that we will both mail on Tuesday. I actually mailed my on Monday because I had time to get to the PO and used DC too. Their pin had not arrived in the normal amount of time. We both agreed to use DC and the amazing thisg is they swore they sent it as promised. My pin arrived to them on Thursday at 2:45pm and their pin was sent at 3:30pm the same day. That sucks.
If you agree, send the pin otherwise, communicate and be honest. The trade can still happen. I also agree that this should be listed in the feedback, but then what happens is one of the people does everything as promised, perfect packing and verything and the person who did not can leave bad feedback out of spite. So what do you do then? I still say call it like it is. Once you have established yourself, people know and trust you. Here is a perfect example. Sorry to use you Judy but I will throw Tabbi in there too.
Judy has done 1000's of trades, is the queen of WRAP and if I ever saw a negative comment, I would know someone is doing this just to hurt her, as an example, maybe Judy left them poor and deserved feedback. Jusy has a reputation that I hope to have one day so my point is, most of thesepeople are newer traders, although there are always exceptions to the rule and some jaded seasined traders can pull the same stunt.
Cal it like it is. That is what feedback is for. One last suggestion. If someones packing is not up to par, maybe contact them directly and explain to them as they may not know better and give them a chance to make a correction.
Theres my 3 cents (cause i can never just give 2)